my Mother attends the same Church

as a bloke who used to be in gaol for armed robbery I think it was. I've met him and shaken his hand and we have shared the greeting of the "Peace of the Lord". The last time I saw him he had his 10 year old son with him in church. He doesn't seem to hang around after the service. When I was doing Theology, several of the students were involved in pastoral visits to the gaols and one student talked about visiting a paedophile, the most reviled of people in society as well as in prison.
So I wonder how victims of crime and particularly victims of violent crime must feel about others seeing any sort of common ground of humanity in a criminal? "There but for the grace of God go I?" It must be very difficult. How can you even shake hands with a criminal? It took me a long time to look at let alone shake hands with the bloke who ran off with my wife. He is certainly not a friend but I try to be civil for the sake of Matthew. And that was an adultery case. What about a rape or murder or drug trafficking criminal? The wisdom of Solomon and Hammurabi - what would they say?