How do I show respect?

What counts as respect? Respect assumes that there is "the other". Without the other, life is lonely for a species which is dependent on sociality. Sometimes I choose to limit my recognition of "the other" to a close circle of intimates and in doing so I limit my own capacity for growth in humanity. This is why multi-culturalism as in the Australian context is considered as important for the growth of Australians as people.
But on whose terms do multi-culturalism and respect apply? Whose values must multi-culturalism respect? Is M-C a solution for the Jews, Arabs Israelis and Moslems? Not all Israelis are Jews and not all Arabs are Moslems and not all Moslems are Arabs and not all Jews are Israelis. Not al Westerners are Christians and not all Christians are Westerners.
So what counts as respect for the other? Kantians count on the moral imperative "Act towards the other never as a means but as an end" and "Act as though you were to will your action were a universal law." Christians call this precept the "Do unto others as you would have them do to you" rule. As with so many things though, Beware the hypocrite.